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Sep 27th, 2009 by Lucille

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I picked this book to review for Thomas Nelson because I am a counselor. But I set it aside and life got busy….ho hum, I wasn’t expecting much from another relationship book. Way too many of these books promise great things, but in the end, deliver nothing but fluff.

This book was different. What’s He Really Thinking? How to be a relational genius with the man in your life is well worth the time it takes to read.

For one, the author’s voice was very unique. It sounded like it was coming from a wise woman who had learned her material from living it. Paula Rinehart uses her 20+ years of counseling experience to lead us into the heart of men.

The second thing that made the book seem different is that she brought in the latest research in neuroscience. She shows you how the man’s brain is different and how that impacts the way he relates:

Their amygdala tends to be much larger, with far more neurons devoted to action and aggression…the drive to do is quintessentially male.

She explains that the average guy has 40 – 60 times more testosterone than women and that does is costs him his speech.

The value in Paula’s book is that she forces women to confront the differences between genders and to have a sense of appreciation for how God wired men:

Am I going to count love as it comes to me in a male package? Or am I going to spend my life insisting love be delivered in the manner I recognize most quickly – words and empathy?

In a way, this book seems like a woman’s version of John Elderedge’s Wild at Heart. Rinehart focuses on seeing the males in our life as a wonderous gift from God.

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